The Joys of a genuine Love. It becomes a safe space One that you will not have to think twice before you can call for advice. The new generation has normalized acting everything is “replaceable”. 

Deep real-life conversations that make you want to be better instead of passive aggression is a genuine love. What happened to a good kind love. What happened to girl’s code and being a sister’s keeper, a daughter good student or teacher. Dashing to a place and whole heartedly thinking of your sister’s favorite drink, your boyfriend’s favorite food, some flowers for your mother, what happened to showing a real love without feeling a malicious suspect which usually turns to be correct. To just laugh and not being scared to punch a good sis because of how you can feel their un genuine aura. And no, you are not overthinking it, it is real.! What happened to showing love she asked me. (A conversation in the head) 

Now as you grow you start to question where that aunt that came every Saturday is because they sure aren’t dead. What happened right. How did they fall out. Soon you are after some years of age, you begin to understand how they could have fallen off. LIFE teaches you its lessons and soon you are to knowledge of life. There we go repeating cycles. Now you are going down the same spiral and not even thinking of ending it. What happened to love? But that’s your blood. That’s your best friend, that your partner still resents you. Well, I mean end it right. But how? By not doing the same they do to you. 

 Acts of kindness create ripples for reciprocation, a smile, a compliment, convincing yourself you can then remember their disrespect. But how can we be better!?  When your guard has been lifted by repeated trauma even till now and the world has taught you to be cold to survive or go to jail.  Learning to trust but still into the same type of people. Well learn from the ones tht have been kind. Always listening, feeling safe and vulnerable. 

As a humanity we have lost discipline, endurance and a willingness to want to be better. After all it should start within the heart they say even if you’d been hurt multiple times. “An unpleasant mind can never conjure genuine thoughts.” 

This summer move forward, live your life with good intent knowing what they did or what they are doing is a seed that surely grows, and height matters on their character not yours. Spread the love you never got and stay away from that gut that tells you they are not for you. Maybe an internal search and self-awareness. Volunteer in a community, Buy some food for a less fortunate person. Tell your sister you love them and apologize for being a menace to society. 

May we find a sense of belonging and real genuine connections. Happy summer holidays.